Wednesday, November 5, 2008

Being a single mom

Okay, I need to vent. I am a single mom. I am a proud single mom and I love being a mom (although some days one might think otherwise LOL). To me, the definition of a single parent is a parent that does it on their own without the assistance of the child's other parent.

So why is it that the single parents with live in boyfriends/girlfriends and a heavily involved other parent are complaining? Seriously, when the other parent is involved, you get alone time. You have days where you get to shower un-interrupted, run errands alone, study for a test or sleep in! When you share custody with someone you get the "break". Even if you have a live in partner, you can ask them to be aware of the child for just a few minutes so that you can do a simple task. Listen up...those of you in this situation are not single parents! Stop complaining to me that the 3-4 days a week you have your child you don't get to do the things you want!

My son has a father. His father lives on the other side of the country and is currently deployed to Cuba. I have had my son every day--EVERY DAY!--since October 2006. I wouldn't trade it for the world, and yes sometimes I really would kill to have a "break" but in the long run, I know that my son is benefiting from having a happy, healthy home. I'm tired of people I know, or random people that say stuff in the store, complaining about having to take care of their child.

I complain at times too, but it's part of being a parent. Being a parent is tough enough when there's two of's harder when you don't have that other person to lean on. All I ask is that you keep an eye on the words you say to other people!

Thanks for letting me vent...I needed it :)

1 comment:

Nicoolmama said...

You are a rocking mama, Amber! I considered myself a single parent when it was just Mas and I, even when his dad would take him every other weekend. I was(and still am) the primary care provider and that is no easy job! I think even with small breaks, parenting is always tough. It's a full time job. Even when Mason was not with me, I worried about him. As for doing it completely by yourself, I commend you. You are doing a great job!